Anonymous asked: I like being hungry. People tell me I'm an attention whore, and I haven't even left my house in months. I hate my body. My boyfriend is boring me, do you know how to make a relationship exciting again? Or do I have to just call it quits?

What does being hungry, leaving your house, and hating your body have to do with it? But I can’t tell you how to make it exciting besides try spending more time together and trying new things. Try doing things out of the house instead. Either you’re still attracted or you’re not.

Anonymous asked: hello :) my problem is not really a problem as such but i would like advice if you can give me. i am french but i moved to england when I had 12 years I really like england but now it is time for university and i do not know if i stay here or go to france again. i really like my life here and don't have much in france nevermore but i think it is for best if i go back but then i don't know and i am confused. I need third party perspective. what do you think? france or england? i know you do not know the whole full story but i just need someone elses opinion. thank you very much xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

I can’t tell you where to go to college. That’s 100% your choice.

Anonymous asked: hey! this is pretty hard for me too right because i have been struggling with it for as long as i can remember.. im a 15 year old girl and i weigh 270 pounds. i cringe everytime i write or hear it. its not something im proud of. its not a "your beautiful its just a number" thing its a serious issue i tried diets and excerise and they do not work. i am tired of the constant bullying and not being able to wear cute clothes. please please give me some advice.

I mean, the only way to lose weight and keep it off is diet and exercise. Go see your doctor to ask for advice, because they obviously give the best. It’s really all in your mindset. You have to be determined and focused the whole way through. Instead of snacking on ice cream, you have to snack on vegetables. You have to work out EVERY day. Push yourself. Eat six small meals a day isntead of 3 big ones. When you feel hungry, drink water first. Don’t drink anything except water, milk (fat free!), and maybe some orange juice ONCE in a while (make sure it’s the trop 50 so it’s half the calories). It’s just little things like that. Measure yourself instead of weighing yourself.

Anonymous asked: Hey , my name is jess . and i suffer from ADHD and Manic Depression ( Bi-Polar Dissorder) and the only thing that kept me strapped to this earth , the only thing that i held on living for , was my boyfriend. most people didn't approve because he's a senior and i'm a freshman, but i didnt care . we were an amazing couple . he was sweet, funny, kind, innocent, . he was everything and more . he was perfect . he saw all the cuts and scars on my wrists and hips and he still didnt care, he stuck with me through everything .
he just broke up with me today and now i feel like i have nothing left to live for . i feel like there's no point in my worthless exsistance . i dont know if he did it because he was tired of a psychotic girlfriend or if he found someone better . either way i'm crushed and i feel like i have no one left .
i want to commit suicide, i want to so badly. but a part of me thinks i only want to do it to see his reaction, to see if he would care or not .
i cant stop crying .and i'm going crazy, i need help, because i just dont know what to do .
i dont know what i truely want . please help me ?

Don’t let someone control your life like that. I know what it’s like. I’ve been there not too long ago, and I also suffer from depression. Take it day by day. Ask for help. I can’t stress it enough. If your parents won’t listen, talk to a counselor at school. If you want to be anonymous, call 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433). They can help you. Just don’t take your life. There are people who care about you whether you know it or not, and take it from me, your life means so much to everyone around you. Your death could cause someone else to go into major depression. There’s so many options these days for people who need help, and I really advise you take them! You’re not psychotic, it’s not your fault. You didn’t choose this. Don’t blame yourself and don’t punish yourself for the breakup. Use this time to get better.

Anonymous asked: D: im soo confused soo this guy that cheated on me, he wanted to talk and we did. and he said that he never ment to to hurt me and he doesnt know what he was thinking. and he started to cry. and i dont know what to do. like he wants me to forgive him but i dont wanna get hurt. and he said he would do anything and not talk to girls or anything. like i need someone opinion. pleasee helppppp! D:

It’s up to you in the end. You could give him one more chance, but I would suggest to limit it to ONE chance. Just so you know though, my personal opinion is “once a cheater, always a cheater”.

Anonymous asked: hey, erm, i've done a really bad thing and i feel terrible.
i have this friend who i've liked for way over a year, we have fancied each other loads, but we've fallen out loads which was horrible. he got a girlfriend in the summer which sucked because i was so gutted, and i still have very strong feelings for him. and he is still dating this girl. but he said he has feelings for me.
but i went on a walk tonight just as we have done quite a bit, and we ended up kissing loads, :/ i feel so terrible, and so does he. we both know we were wrong. but we dont know what to do. i not cant stop thinking about him though, and my feelings have grown stronger :(:( what do i do :(. kill me now D:

It’s never a good idea to do anything with a guy who has a girlfriend. You just have to let it be until he decides to not be with his girlfriend anymore, and you have to make sure to let him know that.

Anonymous asked: so i've been sitting here with a tab open to your ask box for probably an hour now, trying to work up the courage to type all this stuff out. because this whole situation kind of makes me feel like a stupid, naive little girl. but i've come to you for advice before and i found it really helpful, here goes.
i'm pretty sure i like this kid who i've met online. we've been talking for a while and lately it's been a pretty regular, everyday occurrence that i text him. i've tried not to develop anything more than a little crush on him, but i'm starting to fail miserably.
he's said he has nothing against a long distance relationship and we flirt constantly, but i can't tell if it's just me or if he does this with every girl he talks to online.
i just don't know if i'm making something out of nothing or what. that's why i kind of feel stupid about it. and i'm afraid that if i confess true feelings for him, i'll lose him as a friend entirely if he tells me that he doesn't feel the same way in return.

what should i do?

I mean, I wish I could help you more but there’s really only two options. You can either keep it to yourself and never know what would’ve happened, or let him know how you feel. Just make sure to let him know that no matter how he feels you don’t want to lose him as a friend.

Anonymous asked: this is going to sound horrible. please dont judge me. i like this guy and i think we'd go well together but he's quite shy and quiet and doesn't really go out or anything and i've said to my friends about him and they all think he's a joke :( i'm not sure what to do :( he's a good friend of mine but i dont want my closer friends to be nasty to me about it :/ aaahhh ): xxxxxx

If they are nasty to you about it, then tell them they aren’t being good friends. Like I said earlier, if they don’t like him, then it’s that much less competition for you. :)

Anonymous asked: hi, so i had a crush on guy about 6 months ago, but now i don't. when i liked him i told my bbf that i like him. she told me that she'll keep that as a secret.but now my bff's friend knows that i had a crush on him,she told her.. and now i'm afraid that she's gonna to tell her others friends. what should i do?

Tell them you don’t like him anymore..

Anonymous asked: so i've been talking to this guy and he's really lovely and he seems to like me and i like him... and i kissed him at this party when we were both a little drunk.
the thing is... something's stopping me from liking him, though really he seems quite perfect for me.
and it's the stupidest thing.
i'm white... and he's indian.
i sound like such a racist, i guess, but my best friend is indian, so i know quite a few asians, and i've noticed that asians really tend just to date other asians, and i'm kind of insecure about this...
and i'm also worried about what people will think about me, if i dated him?

can you give me advice at all?? xxx

I’ve noticed that most Asians do prefer to date other Asians as well, but if you both like each other then I don’t think anything should be stopping you. And hey, if your friends are like “eww you like HIM”, then think of it as less competition for you :)

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and i have been together for 15 months roughly. He's gone through many rough patches, yet I can forgive him for that (we're not all perfect are we?) but recently he's been getting close with one of my friends. He's always texting her and everything. And he's even been asked if he'd go out with her! His phone's breaking and can't receive texts but somehow i think he's lying to me. What do i do?

You just need to talk to him in person and ask him what’s going on and expect nothing less than the truth. If you think he’s still being shady, then the trust is gone out of the relationship, and therefore is no longer healthy. So at that point you should consider a break?

Anonymous asked: I need advice like non-other right now,
so me and best friend lets call her S have pretty much been inseparable from the first day we met at our college orientation, we hung out everyday and always texted and everything was great... then we met this guy and lets call him K, and we all became like the three muskateers, in the meantime we all started to become friends with this other guy and lets call him Z, well I had kind of liked Z from the very beginning, but me being shy as hell neveer spoke up, and him and S started having a thing..after that semmester ended and everyone came back to school S and Z started drifting apart, and she started seeing other boys, but still kinda liked Z..and it became awkward for me and K because we were kind of the thread that hold the fabric together.. anyway now things are getting better except me and Z are getting closer, and im starting to get really strong feelings for him.. i just know Im not supposed to date friends ex's but I've always liked him and now more than ever...what do I do? especially since me and Z talk everyday and flirt like crazy! helpppp

I think you should just explain the situation to S. Usually that rule only applies because the 2nd girl goes after the guy without her knowing. If she understands where you’re coming from, then there shouldn’t be any problems.

Anonymous asked: I don't know what to do. I don't trust my friends. All they do is gossip and tell other people what I tell them.

I have a boyfriend who I trust but I am sick of dumping everything on him. I guess you could say I feel unappreciated.

I have cheated on him twice, and I have to live with that shame. I was drunk both times, but that is no excuse.

I used to self harm and recently the temptation to revisit it is becoming bigger.

I feel alone, isolated from other people, yet I pretend for their sake that everything is fine and I live through days keeping myself to myself and joining in with the what should be happy teenage years.

Any idea what I should do?

I told another person who doesn’t feel comfortable talking to other people about their problems this pretty much:

If you can’t trust your friends enough to confide in them, then maybe you should try writing a diary. I also think it would be cool to start a 2nd Tumblr where nobody knows who you are, so that you can dump anything and everything out. Sometimes it feels good just to vent, even if you don’t know the people who are reading it.

Anonymous asked: I'm in love with a boy, a really beautiful, sweet, well rounded, boy who means the world to me. Through my eyes he is the work of God's finest angels. I have fallen for many people before and never once have I felt this towards someone.
Two weeks ago today I found out he was cheating on me, since the 13th of January. I found out that the reason why he had stopped paying attention to me, the reason why I was feeling bad vibes from him, was because he had another guy. I got really depressed and still am, I've tried killing myself, and I'm starting to fall back on drugs, I don't know what to do anymore.
This boy, who helped me escape from a terribly abusive relationship full of lies and cheating, cheated on me. I've tried to process it, I've tried to get over it, but it just isn't working.
He is happy with his new boyfriend and it kills me to see them so happy. I refuse to push him out of my life though, because it only makes it worse. I want to stay in his life to fulfill my promise of being here for him regardless of what happens. I have forgiven him for what he did to me, while I am still upset with him, he is forgiven.
I don't know what to do..
One half of me wants to suffer through all of this and hope he will come back to me and realize how much I truly have to offer him, the other half wants to take this handful of hydrocodone I bought off of an old friend.

Drugs are never the answer. I think it sounds like the best thing for you would just to stay friends with this guy since he makes you feel so much better. Maybe you’ll meet someone else.

Anonymous asked: hey, erm. i need help, i dont know what to do :/
basically i have a boyfriend, who i've only been going out with for like 3 weeks, he is so lovely, slighly clingy but i try not let that effect us.
then there is this boy, who i've always loved from the moment i met him, but he has a girlfriend.
we have recently been getting closer, which i love so much, because when we're together everything seems complete almost (as silly as it sounds)
but i dont know what to do, because i know i have feelings for the other guy, and he has told me he has feelings for me too.
i would never cheat, i tink its a horrible thing to do, but i just want to be with this other guy so much, more than my actual boyfriend. i dont know what to do :/

Then you need to break it off with the first guy. It’s not fair to him when you’re thinking about someone else.